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Letters From The Edge Of Blogspace: Random Thoughts And A Conversation

Published December 18, 2011 by Christine

I had an interesting meeting on Wednesday. I met my mother face-to-face for the first time since I started transition. Since the only time she had free was in the evening and the only places to meet were pubs, we decided to sit in the car, in the Co-op car park. It  was a new car so the heating worked well, a little too well at one point! I wont go into details of our conversation, (it’s private), but I will say it was pleasantly surprising. I was nervous as hell, waiting in the car park for her, and I think she was as well, but that nervousness disappeared when I got in the car to speak to her. It was a shame that I didn’t have more time to spend with her but, with all that she had to do while she was in the UK, it wasn’t to be. Plus she had to fly back the next morning. Unfortunately I’m not going out there this year, but I’m not on my own this time, it’s going to be myself and Tracey.

Finally finished getting all of Tracey’s stuff from her old flat into the new one. Now it’s just a matter of sorting it all out and putting everything in its place. I never want to see another set of stairs like hers again! The worst part was getting her bloody great three-seater leather sofa down, but it’s all out now.

I’m looking for a car now that I have my license back, but it’s not easy. One good thing, from an insurance point of view is that the endorsements that are on my license come off in January, (except one, MS90, which comes off in September). So my insurance will be lower YAY! Now I just have to figure out how to pay for a car !

 

Letters From The Edge Of Blogspace: Universal

Published December 3, 2011 by Christine

I was thinking this morning about ‘stuff’, as one does, and it occurred to me that, despite being less than four weeks to Christmas, I only have ten weeks until probably the most important appointment in my life so far. CHX. To me this is more important than Christmas or New Year, (although I look forward to both) and the train of thought switched points and started down another random track. I started thinking about all the people involved in my life and how they have affected that life. The main ones being my family & close friends. The train slightly derailed at that point and then switched down another track. The reason for the derailment was a song I was listening to: Universal by OMD. It made me think of how I am perceived by people, and of acceptance in general.

In the last year, I have had no more that two audible comments directed at me, I’ve had several school kids laughing at me when I was getting on a bus and one little girl ask her dad if I was a lady (unfortunately I didn’t hear the father’s response. I would have loved to have heard that one :D). All of these took place earlier on in the year, but I’ve had nothing in the last few months. Have I developed so far that I am now just seen as another woman walking through the town or are people just so accepting that no-one take any notice? Is our society so much more tolerant nowadays? I live in an area of town that is primarily Asian and Nepalese. The shops are Greek, Turkish, Nepalese, Asian, Polish. Openly, at least, there doesn’t seem to be anything in the way of racism. You do get the odd one or two every so often but generally, nothing. Even a friend of mine, who is openly racist, gets on well with everyone, (personally I think he fakes it).

So, is our society more tolerant? I’m not sure. It certainly seems to be where I live but I have spoken to friends around the country who have related stories of being verbally and physically abused because of their situation. One, who used to live next door to me, told me of being having the crap beaten out of him because he was black. Another, a white girl, was racially abused in Southall, London, when she went to repair a customer’s computer. One girl I know was threatened with a knife because, like me, she is trans. We read a lot in the papers about people being beaten up, stabbed, verbally abused because of their gender, colour or sexuality. We see these in the papers, read the statistics and the picture seems bleak. But these are in small. concentrated area’s in different parts of the country, not everywhere, and committed by a minority. So yes, I think our society is becoming more tolerant.

Anyway, rant over. It wasn’t meant to be one but my mind tends to run away with itself when directly attached to a keyboard.

 

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