Ok. Passing Privilege. What is it? It’s the ability for a trans woman to pass as a Cis woman in everyday life. Now, before you attack me for using the word Cis, let’s see what it means.
Cis is a Latin prefix meaning “Same side of”.
Trans is a latin prefix meaing “Opposite side of”
If there was ever a bigger divide then this would be it.
I am a trans woman. I am a woman who happens to have been born with a physically male body. I never intended to write anything like this because, since I transitioned, I’ve always been accepted as a woman, with no doubts ever shown from other women, or any men. This is known as “Passing Privilege”. There is no greater acceptance a trans woman can have than this. Or is there?
To be honest, it’s a privilege, as in the name. Not every trans person can ‘pass’ in every situation. I can go into the loo, have a wee and walk out, no problem, but not everyone can. This is where the problem occurs. I’ve sat in a pub, with a cis friend, ordered dinner, and she’s been called ‘he’ and ‘him’ by the serving staff. It was only down to her restraining me that stopped me from exploding in front of them. What was worrying me was that I was scared that I would get ‘clocked’ as a trans woman and get the insults and, yet it was her.
This is where the problem lies. In both the idea of what a woman is and what a woman should look like. Both are Patriarchal ideals. Neither idea could exist in a matriarchal society. In our existing patriarchal society this is the only ideal that can exist.
I am a trans woman. According to the male gaze I can’t exist because that would negate their manhood, because to them they would be looking at another man, yet they’re looking at a woman. According to Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminism, I can’t exist because I belong to the male side yet, again, they’re looking at a woman. I exist. I am here. I want nothing to do with men and everything to do with Radical Feminism because I support women, because I am one.
In this patriarchal society, women are defined by men. Even Radical Feminists define women by male standards. This is the missing part. This is passing privilege. Those trans women who walk among us, passing unnoticed, have a passing privilege defined by men. Defined by the patriarchal society in which we live. There is no way that anyone can define our society as matriarchal or equal until we, as women, run it.
Until then, our society will be run by men and we, as trans women, will inevitably be second-class citizens until all women recognize the need to change and we can all be equal.